The Life Changer, 2018!
Wow! 2018 was such a weird year for me *for lack of a better word*. Although, my Instagram was one way I kept in touch but even I know that I could have done much better and for that I feel a little bad for myself.
In the absence of a pity party, let’s do a review of 2018 and make some affirmations for 2019, shall we?
The year started with a huge change in enviroment as I moved back to Lagos from Jigawa where I served for a year.
The first three months were such a breeze that I really didn’t keep track of how it went. I got me a job that I didn’t last a week at because it wasn’t working for me, stayed home with my parents for the most part and eventually got another on the fourth month.
Two months as I worked on my new job, I got the best opportunity of the year which was my Wilson’s ambassador program that lasted 3 months in all. I really have no idea what 2019 has in store for me but I do hope I get more of such opportunities and collaborations.
Let’s say I still have a little fear when it comes to pitching to brands. Although, I know it won’t be easy but I hope I conquer that fear early in the year.

Trust me, I wasn’t fake reading.in
Got married to the man that makes me the happiest on the 6th month and I can gratefully say it’s been a different journey since then.
As much as I’d love to talk about marriage as many of you have asked, I feel like I’ve only been married a minute and it really isn’t my forte to talk about things I’m not so well grounded on.
So, apologies to you guys that asked about my married life in my last Instagram poll, I’m not up to that task yet.
For those that asked about how I knew my husband was the one; hmmm, I still can’t answer that too because I also don’t know and I genuinely think it’s something you don’t really know but more of something you ease into and understand that it’s either what you want or not.
2018 was my year of mental intelligence in some ways. I couldn’t totally control things the way I wanted but what made me happy the most was being able to understand what I was going through at every point in time and not letting the negative comsume me too much.
There were moments I went to bed in tears, woke up angry and for no reason at that. I had moments that I felt really low in my life and called myself a failure. These moments for me were the hardest to get out of because I really had no hope in myself and that was what led to my blog hiatus.
I constantly battled with redefining my purpose in life, with being dependent on my spouse, not achieving goals, having no zeal whatsoever to pursue my dreams and also tired of works that didn’t get the recognition I’d hope for and the pay I’d love.
2018 was really hard on my career; I couldn’t even say I had one but I know I kept hanging in there.
Another major enlightenment I got was from friendship. I can say I’ve really grown in my friendships and confidently said no to relationships that didn’t serve any significant purpose anymore.
It was hard finding out that I didn’t have much real people around me and instead, I just knew a lot of people. I tried making excuses at some points but finally got where I had to kick everyone out without caring. Some friendships have died from that and I do not regret at all.
Last year was a major lesson on my relationships because much better, I now know how to manage people and that growth, I am so grateful for. To the friends that didn’t let me get far without being there for me, I’m really grateful.
Family! Let’s just say I value family even more. After realizing that I didn’t have much real friends. I felt really alone at some point and that made me fall back to the only people that are always there for me; my family.
My mother in particular was a major strength and contributor although she might not know this.
I also made the most valuable friendships last year and I hope they bloom even better this year. There are people with pure hearts who would give everything to make you happy, I hope you find them and keep them.
To my career again; the greatest loss I felt last year tbh. I stopped calling myself a blogger at some point and forgot how to write, my picture content wasn’t it and even though I had all I needed to make things work, it just never did. I tried taking a job but didn’t get a response.
It hurt me a little bit but I’m over it now.
Financially; my 2018 was a wreck. Barely had money of my own because responsibilities where more than I’ve ever been saddled with. Started a business here and went on hiatus also, although I’m back on it now. I’d appreciate your support and patronage. *winks*
I was unable to spend on frivolities but it was also a year of financial literacy and stability for me. I think I got better with managing money and planning; all thanks to my husband because that dude can plan a lifetime in advance.
Stability! The most stability I got from everything is all thanks to my husband also. He’s much more organised when it comes to planning about life unlike me who is a spontaneous life enjoying human. I really suck at planning.

Baby shower moment.
The greatest gift of the year however is being an expectant mom. Journaling the whole process is probably the only wholehearted writing I was able to do last year. I felt a lot of things, I still do and that’s an entire blog post anyway.
In all, 2018 was a year of so much growth and firsts of a lot of things for me. It was beautiful, ugly, depressing, surprising, exciting and a whole lot more than I can express. It was a major life changer for me.
This new year I plan to be more daring, intentional, loving, selfish, understanding and most importantly hold myself accountable for every of my actions. This baby girl only wants to catch flights, job offers and new opportunities.
To fall more in love, give more love and create more, get better in my religion, figure out how and actually be a good mom.
I don’t want to be a superwoman. I simply want to live life, enjoy it and grow like I never have and I want this to be my breakthrough as I hit the big 25.
This isn’t much of a comeback but take me not as I am but with hope that I’d get better. Cheers………… to more blogposts.
Do share with me below how your 2018 went and your plans for the new year.
Hello 2019,
Hello, Meedahtrybe.
Soaked In Love
❤❤❤
Meedah!
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Yaaaay, I’m glad you are back!!! We sure missed your blog posts. 2018 was a roller coaster as I keep saying. 2019 would be better for each and everyone of us. We grow and keep growing!!! I can’t wait for this yummy mummy to drop *winks. Barakallah feek my love
Sweetie, I’m so happy to be back too. The year is already getting better for us and I’m excited. A yummy mummy can’t wait to drop too. Hahaha. Love you baby
May Allah easen your affairs and grant your heart desires. May 2019 be more productive and interesting for you.
Ameeen, thank you so much and I wish you the same my darling Instagram admirer.
Yummy mummy meedah!!! 2018 was definitely a good year for you baby girl may Allah make 2019 better for you. Cheers to living life and wording about noting because that’s the best way to life.
Ameen my darling leemah. I wish you the ultimate best this year and I really pray you resume blogging. Love you girl.
Cheers to the new energy! I didn’t have a great year either, but I’m taking on this new chance and smashing it by Allah’s grace
That’s the way to go babe. Smashhhhh it
From the depth of my heart, I salute your sagacity MA……….. We shall all witness more grace insha allah. LIO CARES!!!
Thank you very much Idris.
2018 was a year that got me really confused. I didn’t know what to do with my life even though I got a job immediately after NYSC, it was kasunkaji Nigeria Enterprises Ltd. I haven’t figured it all but I pray that God helps us achieve the goals that didn’t achieve us last year.lol. please journal well o, so you can teach us when the time comes. Have a wonderful 2019!
My dear, I really would never have thought your 2018 was that rocky. I pray you have an amazing 2019.
Stunning Mummy to be, I wish you safe delivery as I’m also expecting our rainbow twin girls. I have always admired you from far…2019 would surely be a great one. #Manshallah
Yassss, you know I was so excited seeing you and finding out you were expecting twins because I’ve always wanted twins but Alhamdulillah. Maybe the next one hahaha. Thanks for dropping by sister love.
Cheers 🥂 to an awesome 2019! in shaa Allah!
Thanks and same to you Dhikraa.
Congratulations dear…I know you may feel like you didn’t really achieve a lot and all but really you achieved a whole lot and most importantly you are becoming a mummy!! 🤰💃💃. I can’t wait for a while blog post on how you found out, how you felt, you first few months and etc. I pray that you have an even better 2019 filled with so many opportunities and joy ISA.
Toodles!
Hahaha, thank you so much babe. Trust me to write on my experience as soon as I get a break after popping the little one. It’s true that I might not be where I want but also true that I’m doing okay and I can do better. Thanks your your kind words sister girl.
Last year was a good year, a whole lot of unpalanned things happened in your life for good! Although it wasn’t what you expected from life, God gave you what he saw fit for you at the time and it is indeed, the best. Sometimes we want that, which is not right for us… Just keep hanging there, striving to be better while you keep your trust stuck to the Lord. He can change even a lifetime situation in a second!
He is the master planner. I pray 2019 is better nonetheless.
Thank you very much for your kind words Sofeeyah. Alhamdulillah for everything.
See that career thingy, that is the most saddening thing for me. Sometimes I just tell myself, I have failed woefully. I keep telling myself, if I truly can do a lot of things why then am I not doing something tangible and that thing hurts so badly because u loook at the people around u and the have their career life figured out at leats they are doing sth and you, you re not doing stg. I just hope and pray that this 2019 gives me a headstart in a lifelong process
I’ve learnt that just as much as looking at others success can help you get your shit together, it also shouldn’t be too much so you don’t start to compare yourself to them and see yourself as a failure. Our goals are different in life, our routes might look alike though but why then do we look at others to meausre our own success? It’s not right make a mental note to do better this year and hold yourself accountable. I’m sure you’ll see the difference.
Congratulations!!! 2019 will be better❤️
Thank you. Amen, I wish you thesame.
Alhamdulillah for the gift of life, there are so many things to be thankful for.I cant wait for your next post. Cheers to a better 2019 filled with great opportunities.
Thank you for stopping by Nafisat. And guess, there’s a new post waiting to be read too.
It’s really nice reading your blog post for the first time. I have always admired you on Instagram and your progress. May Allah continue to uplift you. My 2018 just went like a breeze, I achieved none of the goals I set, I blame it on them not being realistic enough. I try not to think too much about the year, cos I can only feel and remember the negativities. I’ve not set any goals for 2019, but I want to be more expressive, have (real) friends that will help me grow, improve on myself and my skills, learn to be happy, improve spiritually, have more fun… And the list is endless.
It’s great that you can at least point out where you had it all wrong and have a vision for 2019. It’s not all about the scribbles of goals if you won’t follow through anyway. For some people it’s hard on them following through because it gets overwhelming and that’s why they make mental notes of things they’d love to achieve. I think that’s the case for you and it’s not a bad thing. Writing your goals down helps you check yourself but if it doesn’t work for you, then don’t push too hard. Just make sure you hold yourself accountable for decisions you make. Thanks for stopping by my blog. It means a lot.
Baarakallah fih dear😍…there’s a little story behind knowing you and actually becoming one of my favorites 😊. It happens during the last ten days of ramadhan which I was opportune to be there at lekki central mosque *Alhamdulillah* A girl saw me and told me You look like meedah and I was like I don’t know who meedah is please, then she went ahead and showed me your page…to be sincere I didn’t see that resemblance there but to my surprise 😳😳another person said same thing so I thought to myself there might actually be some features but one thing is clear you’re taller than I do because she’s a petite 😁 and since then I’ve been stalking you 😉😘…I really don’t know much about you but you’re amongst the strong people I know…keep going, keep winning , Allah is your strength dear😘.i can’t wait to read more of your blog post in shaa Allah. ❤️
Awwwn, this is so beautiful. Thank you and amen to thr prayers. I also used to observe itikaahf at lekki central mosque but I haven’t been there for two years now. Thankful for those people that introduced you to my world, I hope you like it here. And thanks for the support, I wish you the best.
Yaaaaay, I really enjoyed reading this.
May Almighty Allah grant all your wishes for 2019.
Looking forward to reading more from you this year.
And congratulations on being a mummy!
Amen to your prayers and I’m really glad you enjoyed this post. Thank you so much.
I can so relate to totally thinking of oneself as not good enough, not feeling it when the opportunity you have waited for finally comes around, few friends, being broke. In all I’m glad you had people who love you around at your low moments. One can’t trade people who are strongly behind you .Can’t wait to see the yumminess in your tummy.
I’m also grateful for having such people around me. Hahaha, aren’t we all excited for the little one? Thank you darling.
Welcome meedah! Your posts were always so insightful and deep. I love you and can’t wait for your little one. You make it look so easy wallahi! For me, 2018 was such a year, all I can say is Alhamdullilah. My plan for 2019 is to be a little bit more grounded, celebrate my little wins and strive for more closeness with my faith. All in all I’m excited for our journey. Cheers to a new year and I’m here waiting for your next post.
Thank you so much Salmah. I read your review and wow was all I could so. So happy we aren’t letting tough situations pull us down. Well, I think it’s not that hard; I’m also excited for my little one and I’m sure our journey this year would be beautiful. And yes, there’s a new post up too.
2018 was a really trying year. It was like I’d been living in my child bubble for 17 years and 2018 was like an eye opener to a whole lot of things.
I’m super glad you shared your experience too and 2019 gonna work out In Shaa Allah 🖤🖤
Apparently it was almost the same for all of us. Glad that we picked the positives and are chnaging the negatives.
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