A very intentional post about my purpose.
Relax! No one is out to get you. And even if they are, that would be their personal problem.
Disclaimer: This post comes not from a place of anger but of irritation from having to always seem like my purpose isn’t enough because I’m tired of explaining myself. Read at your own risk.
Over the years and till now, I’ve had family and friends who genuinely care about me worry about the path I’ve chosen. They worry that I bare it all and trust me, it’s not something I’m unaware of.
First is understanding what your all is. People can not determine what that is but only you can because only you know the details of your life.
It’d be great if people just trusted a bit more that people who bare it all know what they’re doing but no lies, some people don’t and sometimes you just get lost. Hence, we appreciate all the check ups.
However, it’s a big decision to bare it all and one to constantly think about also.
On my end, I know I don’t really bare it all because what I have on my social media isn’t my all rather its part of it and I’m fine with it. My experiences in their real and raw form with a dash of filter and a well curated feed.
Come to think of it, what would you do if you weren’t scared of anyone hating on you, beefing you, afflicting you with the evil eye or having numerous opinion that aren’t true about you?
If there are a lot of things in this category, could it be that you’re holding so much back because of what people might think of you? I’m definitely not asking you to also bare it all but whatever you do should be done for the right reasons that resonates with you.
Just a reminder that you are not the perception of people, so don’t be tied down by what they think.
Sadly, these people aren’t even primary in your life, so why worry about them too much. What should be your worry is if you’re being the best version of yourself and trying to get better at it. What should be your worry is who you are and not who you want people to believe you are or who they think you are.
Also, the notion that people who put their life on social media do it for the purpose of showing off needs to die like yesterday. Yes, there are people who’s goal is just that and I really have no problem with that because it isn’t my purpose.
There’s really more to people than what ordinarily meets the eyes so no, you don’t deserve an award for keeping everything about you private, it’s just how you want it and how it is. Neither do I deserve an award for sharing my experience because it’s a path I’ve chosen.
Life isn’t all rosy and easy and that’s why being prepared for the consequences of whatever life you’ve chosen is important. It’s what you do as responsible adults. We take responsibilities.
There are times when people get carried away with social media gratification, it’s not the end of the world. Retrace your steps and pick yourself back up. Identifying the source of your problem is key.
And to those that just want to throw in advice every single time, do you really think you’re living a more quality life just because no one knows what goes on with you? You could be but what if not?
Let people breathe and enjoy things they want to. Tbh, no one is out to get you.
As a story oriented person, I’ve learnt a lot from reading about people’s lives and experiences. It’s what speaks to me. It might be a lot to handle having a lot of people in your business but then again, it’s a line you draw for yourself. Regardless of the path each of us have chosen, we all have boundaries.
So next time before you go on approaching people about how you think they do too much or too less, try to ask or understand their drive and their why. I understand people are scared of things they don’t know about but trust me it gets tiring.
It gets really tiring having to explain your why to people who see it as defense because they believe they’re doing it the right way and you aren’t.
My take, do something that’s greater than your entire being or be a part of it.
This is the path I’ve chosen and I’m very well aware of what I’m doing. I might lose my way a couple of times but trust me, I’ll find my way back and I pray to God that I always do.
No one is out to get me. And even if you are, that’s 100% your personal problem.
Soaked In Love